I've been technically single for about a year now. I was just starting my career and I neither wanted nor had the time really to get into a serious relationship. However, like most 28 year old women, I have sexual needs that need to be satisfied from time to time.
I met "John" about 8 or 9 months ago. At first, we were just friends that would go out to have a few drinks every now and then. Then after about two months of hanging out, we accidentally got a little too drunk and ended up having sex. Fortunately, we had discussed the possibility of becoming friends with benefits while we were at the bar if neither one of us met anyone that night and both understood that we were only going to be friends.
"John" is HOT! He has an amazing body and knows how to use it to satisfy a woman! He's also very funny and I love being around him. At first, I liked him in that sexual attraction type of way, but have slowly developed deeper feelings for him. For the first 3 or 4 months of our friends with benefits arrangement, "John" and I would hook up about 5 or 6 nights a month. In the morning, either he or I, depending on whose bed we used, would get up and casually leave. Occasionally, we would have sex again in the morning, but that is virtually it. There was nothing else to the relationship...we were just friends helping each other satisfy our sexual appetites.
I can't say I didn't enjoy the terms of our relationship because I did. It was great no headache and no strings attached sex. The last 2 or 3 months, however, I have started falling in love with him and I think he might be falling in love with me. He no longer just gets up and leaves and after sex, for instance. Usually we will talk and even grab a bite to eat in the morning. He has also been taking me out to eat at fine dining establishments that have been very romantic.
We occasionally do bf/gf type activities, but we have never talked about the status of our relationship. I'm not sure if he just sees me as a "best" friend he gets to have sex with or if he is beginning to develop more genuine and real feelings for me like I have for him. Usually, I would have no problem just asking the guy where we stand, but in this instance I don't want to rock the boat, so to speak.
I like what we have and want more, but I don't want to lose what we have right now. I guess my main issue of confronting and asking him where we stand is because I'm not sure if it is even possible for a serious relationship to start with a guy that has been sleeping with you for around 6 or 7 months but has never asked you to be exclusive. If he liked me, he would surely make a move, right? Has this ever happened to anyone? Have you ever been in a friends with benefits relationship and it turn into a serious relationship?
Can Casual Sex Lead to a Serious Relationship?
